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Real Parents: Preplanning


It’s a very surreal experience thinking, “Wow! There’s a baby in me!” And, you know, we planned this and still it’s very exciting and very frightening. And you want to do everything you can for the baby.

I would say the hardest part is planning for the future.

We had to change our healthcare plan, which actually work was very … they worked with us a lot. I worked with them about my maternity leave.

Britt wanted to take some time off, which I definitely wanted to support.

We would be investing in day care and starting a college fund and all these other things that cost so much.

So we just had to make sure our finances were in order so that we could do that.

We didn’t really think that a child birthing class would prepare us. But now, looking back on it, I definitely would have wanted to take a child birthing class.

It was really helpful because they had a section in the class about what you need for having a first baby. And you can read it and other people can tell it to you, but when you get it from an instructor, it feels more official. And so I created shopping lists and then towards the end I started nesting and buying everything like crazy.

Babies are tremendously expensive.

And here I was wanting to buy every last thing for the nursery and for the baby.

We were completely overwhelmed when we went to the Babies R Us© to register.

When you register for stuff it is a little overwhelming. There’s like 30 different bottles to choose from.

We just stood there for the longest time, looking around.

We bought a lot of things that I probably didn’t need.

My husband and I looked at car seats and it’s like buying a car.

All the car seats you have to do your research on to make sure that you’re getting the best one.

The combination stroller and the bassinet.

Outfits and nursery bedding.

It’s amazing that they only wear something for a few months and then they’re out of it.

Way too many clothes. They just don’t need that many clothes.

Truly a baby really needs Onesies™ and diapers.

Because you get caught up in the idea that you have to have these things to be a good parent.

Garage sales are a great thing because we don’t have to buy a brand new Onesie™.

Just collecting things. I mean everybody has been so wonderful to give us hand-me downs.

Our first one was a girl and this one’s a boy, and we can use a lot of the same stuff over again.

But we did a lot of preparation and stuff around the house.

There’s tons of stuff that we’re doing with the house.

We built another room down in the basement and finished it all off. So it was a lot of work there.

When we first moved in, we didn’t really anticipate, is this house going to be kid friendly?

Before our second child was born, we prepped our three-year-old fairly well, I think, by telling her what to expect.

I’ve included her. I’ve let her know that she’s going to have a brother or sister. Given her options of even naming the brother or sister.

She became very, very excited. We let her name his middle name. And so I think that really helped her to feel like she was a part of things.

Some days Cade sounds excited about having a little brother. But most days he doesn’t sound too excited. I say, “We’re going to have a baby brother.” And he says, “No, it’s okay.”

We bought Hannah a gift from Nathan. So when he came home from the hospital, we had a gift ready. You know, here’s a gift, you know, from your little brother.

She was not such a big help when we first brought her home. She was exceedingly jealous, at first. But now she’s very protective.

And she still talks about it to this day. She still says, “Oh! That’s the little Thomas Train that Nathan got me when he was born.”